You might not give a damn about your bad repin fact, you're probably proud of itbut she sure as hell cares about hers. She doesn't want anything to mess with her chances of getting a good guy and, perhaps eventually, a good husband. She also doesn't want you to think she's some kind of slut. Even if she is easy, she doesn't want anyone else to think it.
I once knew a guy who had a really good first date with a chick and then he jumped the gun and asked her, "So can I stay over at your place tonight?" And he wondered why she turned cold after that. I told him, "It's really simple, stupid. One of the biggest dating rules is that you never ask a chick if you can stay at her place. Whatever chance you had just went down the tubes. Why? Because, after you say something like that, she thinks you think she's a cheap ho and that makes her feel bad about herself."
Don't ever invite yourself to her place. Ever, even if you're getting "vibes" that she wants you to stay over. If she wants this, she will let your know. There will be no shadow of doubt. She doesn't want you to think that she's "easy" or "cheap" and if you ask this dumb-ass question, that's precisely what you're telling her you think of her. You're telling her that all you're interested in is sex.
Believe me, once you let a woman know this, she will turn ice cold. It's true. Yes, it is. It might not make sense, but I know women think in these terms. Even if she's forty years old, she's still concerned with getting a bad reputation. Always wait for an invite! Always!!! Never, ever invite yourself up to some chick's pad! It will get you a one-way ticket to nowhere.
Now you can invite her to your pad, but do it nicely, "I have some really good gin at my place. Want to come up for a drink? You know, just a drink. I would love to keep talking to you."
I know that your greasy little mind is going to be on sex the entire evening, but never let her know it is. And when you invite her, don't think you're going to get lucky.
On the other hand, if she thinks you're not that interested in sex, she's going to want to know why. Why doesn't he desire me? I've got to figure this guy out. Coming on too strong with a lady is going to get you a ticket homealone. Holding back and letting her come to you might just be your ticket to a night of wild monkey sex.
Let me reiterate. The more you act like you're not interested in sex, the stronger she will come on to you. Don't ever show that's all you're interested inwe all know it isuntil she comes to you. Don't ever assume that she wants it. She might, but if you tell her you know what she's thinking, she's going to turn cold.
What if you do screw up and do something like the idiot I mentioned above? Claim stupidity. Tell her that you're drunk. That you didn't mean it. Tell her you were only joking. Laugh it off. Say you're sorry and if you still have a chance, she'll let you know. And move on to another subject quickly. Women do have long memories but if you brush it off, she may brush it off as well because she'll be embarrassed. And the reason she'll be embarrassed is because she'll think she's the one jumping the gun.
One of the most important things you can do is to think before you speak. She's keeping score, believe me.
What we learned:
■ Women do care about their reputations.
■ Women don't want you or anyone else to think they're a cheap ho.
■ Never invite yourself to her place.
■ Invite her to your place only if you get the vibe she's digging you.
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