Rebel with a Cause
The rebel part of you appears confident. He acts cocky, laughs at authority, and goes out if the way to break the rules. "Skate fast, die young" is his motto. The rebel doesn't take instruction well (of course not, he knows everything). In actuality, the rebel is often a hurting child in a grown-up body. He shoots from the hip. His perceived mission is to fight against external authority, which keeps him focused outside of himself, disconnected from his own spirit. He's like an animal sensing danger and puffing himself up to scare away the enemy but hurting himself more than those he wants to hurt. He runs the show on adrenaline, a product
of his constant fear, medicating himself with addictive living.
As you will see, when the rebel is healed, he is an important part of your psyche; he's your free spirit. It becomes a problem, however, when this part of your psyche (or any of the other parts) takes over. The goal is to get all parts working together. When each part understands its job and knows others are doing theirs, your inner life runs smoother. The rebel is then really free to "do his thing." The freer he becomes, the less rebellious he is and the less likely you both are to end up in the ditch.
Everybody Loves Raymond's Mother When the toxic parent is in charge of your inner world, the tendency is to try and control everything and everyone. She has the natural urge to take care of people, but her efforts come off as bossy. She "saves" people by telling them what to do. She's a finger wagger judging and criticizingand says "it's for your own good." She can also get abusive, doling out love or withholding it to make her point. Her chronic "fixing" of others while neglecting her own needs leaves her in a lot of painwhich she medicates with addiction. If she would only get some boundaries and stay home and take care of you rather than everyone else, things would settle down inside.
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